How To Stay Motivated

I have struggled with motivation all my life. It’s not that I’m not ambitious, because I am. It’s just that I cannot keep myself motivated for long periods of time.  I have a habit of procrastinating. I’m in the habit of starting new things all the time, buying programmes, doing courses and I never finish what I start. I always leave things to last minute. I have started all of the diets under the sun and never finished one. I have started  so many courses and I haven’t finished the majority of them. 

So, what I do is I try to surround myself with people that keep me on track. People that I feel that can motivate me. Most of these people say to write down 10 or 20 or 30 things WHY do you want to do what you want to do? Why do you want to achieve your health goal? or business goal or wellness goal?  Or whatever it may be. This has proven to be effective for me up to a point. It’s still worth doing it, I do it at times. Is just that I don’t feel it helps me enough. 

Therefore, I want to give you 3 steps that have helped me be much more consistent with taking care of myself. Taking care of myself means to me writing down my gratitude every day, saying my affirmations, doing meditation, reading for 20 minutes a day, journaling, looking after nutrition, doing movement, being present for my children and laugh more. I realised I’m not laughing enough. For me to achieve inner happiness I would love to laugh more. I’m on a mission to find fun things for me to do on a regular basis.

Firstly, it’s not about finding your reason why it’s about finding your reason why not. If you suffer with depression, anxiety, negative self-talk, poor body image is about acknowledging where you are. And then doing something that works around you. 

When you realise that where you are at is where you need to be to progress and become who you want to be is a game changer. Find the best way on how to get what you need. Write down your goal. Let’s say your goal is being fit and healthy.

Secondly, you need to start small and make it sustainable. Many people (me included) have this all or nothing mentality where we believe that we must jump right back in and get to some destination as fast as possible or have an immediate result.

The point is to make it a part of your life and keep it that way. The best way to do that is to take small steps consistently. If your goal is to be fit and healthy, what steps will you do to achieve that goal? Would you exercise? Would you go to sleep early? Would you be mindful of nutrition? Write them down one by one. 

Thirdly, you must forgive yourself. Shame is the biggest emotion that keeps us from taking care of ourselves.  Many people feel tonnes of shame about their lack of taking care of themselves. Forgive yourself and then go get it. Compassion for self isn’t always the easiest to cultivate, especially when we are often our own worst critic. Here are 3 therapist-approved steps to stop ‘self-shame spiral’.

I have learned to talk to myself as if I’m talking to my sister or to my best friend. I wouldn’t make her feel shame so why am I making myself feel this way? Ask yourself how are you feeling? Approach this from a place of curiosity, not judgement. Seek specialist help when you feel stuck.

Remember you’ve got this!

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